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Stuck in your story ?

Stuck in your story?

Do you let an old painful event hold you back?

 

sea shells on the sandy beach
Stuck in the muck?

Research has shown that no matter how good our memory is.  It isn’t strong enough to recall old events or trauma in full detail. So what are we actually remembering?  More important when we think about or tell some one about what happened, the brain edits the original event slightly with each time it is retold.

Think about that for a minute.

Each time it’s remembered our brain and our emotional attachment to the event grows stronger connections between brain cells called neurons. These circuitry get embedded in our brain cells through repetition.

According to Karim Nader PhD, a neuroscientist at McGill University in Montreal says “it  maybe impossible for humans or any other animal to bring a memory to mind without altering it in some way”1.

So what we recall, plus or minus a slight change, our story is born. The  “story” can create excuses for doing or not doing something.  Pain or emotional overload can become the roots of a deeply hidden driver behind the pain story. Often times, the more often we think about the pain the story deepens so does the pain.

Free yourself from pain’s old story

Thanks to smithsonianmag.com/science-nature
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Create with colors to feel good

Here is a quick little experiment to feel good.

Change your pain and stress. Have fun while you do it.

1. Watch the video.

2. Collect shiny cloth to practice on.

3. Have your permanent Sharpie markers with wide chisel tips handy.

4. Rubbing alcohol in a spray bottle

5. Work over a bucket or on a table covered in plastic or with butcher paper.

Please send us pictures or video of your results.  Comments welcome.   Thanks!

Thanks to YouTube.com and designoriginals123

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Do it better-without words?

Join Mary for “Communication –  beyond words”
Wednesday March 18, 2015  free class
Mary Wolken PhD
Time: 5 to 7 PM  PST

To successfully navigate the challenges of communicating with others compassionately, we need to become better and better at being comfortable with oue own internal communicator.

This is for you if you are a human, a doctor, mom, Indian chief, teacher, therapist, grandma or policeman if you want to:

glad to know you better read the signs of potential trouble before crisis happens.
understanding what to do
act vs react in a challenge
move forward calmly and confidently

       Don’t turn your heart away from this opportunity to become the best.

 

Mary Wolken PhD, a communication specialist for 45 years will enhance your ability to listen and respond in an effective way and understand the inner dialogue people only hint at with their words.

On Weds. March 18, 2015 at 5 to 7 PM PST

In “Communication beyond words” we will explore:

Getting clear on words and behaviors
Deepening your inner and outer senses of communication
    Reframing “the stories we live”
Pain – a blessing or curse?
Challenges – intervention and light energy

This seminar is my gift to bettering the planet – one better communicator at a time.  – Mary Wolken

Sign up click here