Gently remove your pain

Feel the magic of the Dolphin Energy

Do you need a time out?

Take a few minutes today with a dolphin and a dog.

Before watching this video write down how you are feeling (tired, uneasy, in pain…)

Rate how strong the feel is  on scale of 1 to 10 . (10  being the worst)

 Now check out the video.

After the video write down how you are feeling and rate it again.  If there is now change, please be in touch with me.

Ways to use this video:

  1. You can use this to change your energy

       2. To calm and inspire positive action in group, office and the family.

Thanks to for this remarkable video.

Mindfully move toward the light

Take a moment to move closer to the stars within


* Breathe deeply of the Universe of light that surrounds you.

  • Feel your heart lighten.

Whether you physically at the end of your day move up a physical path to take in the stars or simply focus your attention on this moving stairway imagine you are filling yourself with the light of the universe and your cares will melt away. -MWolken



Moving Stairway courtesy of

Photo courtesy  RRDesigns and the

Hugs and benefits

Is cuddling or hugging needed for our well-being?

It is a natural part of our  makeup to help us  survive and thrive. A basic need fueled by affection, feeling good about being around somebody or even by loneliness.

Conscious Cuddling strengthens our sense of belonging and it is something we can strongly miss when we feel we are alone, estranged, grieving or single. Why?

The brain is hardwired by a hormone to get support from others and even self support.

Cuddling stimulates the production of the hormone oxytocin. When this hormone goes up,  we tend to feel closer, more love, and comfort. the feeling of empathy and trust may increase.

Cuddling can deepen emotional bonds


Conscious Cuddling or hugging if done with a loving heart:

 *Creates a comfortable the experience of support. Like the old expression “I’ve got your back.” This is the physical expression of that caring.

*Conscious Cuddling buildings trust and trust is the key to a healthy relationship. ‘

 Gives yourself a hug 


“Mirror, mirror on the wall, who is the fairest of them all? “

When you feel lonely, left out, sick or grieving  for a lost loved one or even a job pick yourself up by going to the mirror:

Beautiful Girl Looking At A Hand Mirror And Smiling

  1.  Wrap your arms around your chest so each hand holds the opposite arm and take 3 deep belly breaths.

  2.  Then look yourself in the eyes in the mirror and repeat “I am funny (make a funny face),  I am so loveable just look at the light in my eyes.”



  3. Give yourself a big kiss from the light of the Universe right into the center of your hands and then place your overflowing hands of light over your heart and breathe in that eternal love and hugs from the ultimate Lover on all.

  4. Repeat when you need a boost and relax and breath the light in with gratitude for never being alone or without hugs and kisses.


Hugging  takes away  stress and pain

Stress is the most talked about cause of illness and the most unrecognized condition causing most of the illness we know of today.

happy mother finding child

Remember when you needed someone to kiss and hug you when you’d got hurt or lost?

Why does a good dose of hugging and snuggly actually make a physical pain disappear or, at least, make it a lot more tolerable? It seems that when the brain is focused on pain the cortisol levels rise along with the pain. When in pain and we get hugged or even listen to soothing music the oxytocin  levels rise, the pain decreases and we calm down.

Your immune system and sleep improve

when you cuddle and  hugging

Happy elderly couple hugging in front of the camera

It is good for all ages.   Dr Shara BA Cohen staying calm, being optimistic, expressing our feelings and having close loving supportive relationships can boost our immune systems and to maintain good health.

And cuddling doesn’t cost us a penny!. We just need to make cuddling happen!

When you  feel calmer and “hugged”, your brain can relax so your quality and depth of sleep improve. The release of oxytocin in our bodies results in us feeling calmer, tranquil and loving, which induces sleepiness.

Increase the hugging to decrease

cravings for food, drinking or binging

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Hug yourself,  a loved one, pet or teddy or even your pillow can help to deepen your sleep.

Feel good about the light and love that is you.


Being flexible takes on a whole new dimension


How flexible are you?

Rate yourself in flexibility:

physically  ____

mentally _____


relationship flexibility _________

Learn to reset your focus or how you are viewing  the challenge/pain can gently reset how your brain processes the event. Comments welcome.

Uptown funk for your health

Old movies got the funk.

66 (Old) Movie Dance Scenes Mashup (Mark Ronson-Uptown Funk ft.Bruno Mars)

The Funk can ease your worries.

Try it you’ll like it! 

If you can’t get up and about just do it in bed or at your desk and feel the change.

Try some of these moves to increase your energy and lighten the anxiety and pressure of life.


Michael Binder saw the mega viral hit that featured a bunch of dance scenes from popular movies matched up to the incredibly popular song, “Uptown Funk,” he was instantly inspired to do a similar mashup, only he wanted to use dance scenes from movies that only came out of the Golden Age of cinema.

Thanks to YouTube and  Nerd Fest UK




Happy elderly couple
Happy elderly couple

Stop now time to give yourself some lovin:

Now put your arms around your chest and give yourself a loving hug.

Give thanks for being able to hug.

Now everyone give the world a big hug and thanks for supporting us all.

The science behind a hug is simple, but its energy is deeply felt. The brain quiets, the heart opens and warmth and understanding unite those hugging.

Other ways to hug

Light releases stress pain


Pain and loss can be overwhelming,

Surrender to living in the moment with gratitude for :

What you have

What you can do

Visualize how  you want it to be

Allowing the Divine energy to flow in to absorb the pain

Knowing the more you live in this light…
the more you will only feel the Light of the Universe move through you.
Thanks to Garett Hensing for this beautiful photo

Gentle Ways Out of pain



When the pain seems to much.

Listen to your heart.

Ask for help from those that have a gentle way for you can hold on to follow.

Gentle ways out of pain 1:

  • Quiet yourself.
  • Relax your breathing.
  • Focus in the moment.
  • And breathe through the area that seems to feel the worst.
  • See one small way you can shift this uncomfortable situation.
  • Refocus on the new picture and breathe in the change.
  • In the future always focus on this new scene.
  • Give thanks for the shift.

Music for inspiration provided by Third Day – “I Need A Miracle” – and YouTube..

For quicker relief contact Mary Wolken PhD  Dir. Healthy Living Center

for a complementary guidance session.


Unwind the pain with alpha waves

Pain becomes magnified when you focus on it. A way to decrease pain’s grip is to focus on these relaxing sounds and feel your pains and emotional stress float away with each belly breath you take while listening to this tape.

The mind can only focus on one thing at a time.

If you concentrate on these relaxing alpha waves as you go to sleep:

see yourself moving easier with less pain and happier when you awake;

you will feel better in body, mind and spirit.

Thanks to and Jason Lewis – MindAmend

To learn specific skills to harness your alpha and theta wave power contact Mary Wolken the pain away specialist at this site.